March 2012
Starting a Curvy Revolution
Hey! My name is Sophie, I am a 20 year old curvy girl from Guernsey in the Channel Islands. This year I entered a competition run by D+ lingerie brand Curvy Kate, called ‘Star in a bra’. Curvy Kate believe that their customers should be able to choose who they see modelling their underwear, and that women want to see REAL women in the fashion world and media, making a move away from stick thin models and an unrealistic, heavily edited body ideal. I have been lucky enough to make it into the top 30 girls and I really want the chance to stand up and make a difference for all the curvy girls out there who are sick of seeing the clothes and lingerie they buy being modelled by girls who look nothing like them. I’m trying to rally support for what I’m doing from other girls who appreciate how difficult it can be to grow up struggling with their confidence because society tells us that curvy girls are undesirable - when the opposite is true! CURVY GIRLS ARE BEAUTIFUL! We should be demanding that the media empower us as women instead of making us doubt ourselves! Please pop along and give me a vote if you agree! https://apps.facebook.com/star-in-a-bra/models/755
Trying to be self confident and not to be ashamed about who I am
Hi! I'm a US size 18, and I have an hourglass shape. But recently, I have had some issues with my ever-growing tummy (especially because I wear pencil skirts.) I just found these shapers by Bali, called comfortshape, and they are AMAZING. I just want to let all the girls on this blog know that they smooth you out and they prevent thigh chafing and they are not anything like girdles. :)
Great info, thanks!!
this isnt a question its more of a statement. i didnt know how to post a message XD but all these women on here are down right gorgeous. im in love. some of their stories breaks my heart but they all sound like wonderful people. ladies dont let anyone tell you anything other than your gorgeous. ive been single for a couples years now but all i have dated were plus size women. and i believe it will continue that way. once again ladies all of you are gorgeous.
a bit late and also not a question, lol BUT to the question about cute clothes to wear, a-line skirts/dresses, kimono style shirts and dresses are amazing! empire waisted stuff is helpful as well. i've had issues with shirts mostly because the only part of me that is plus-size is my belly lol! also, i love this blog. so inspiring, love you all girls! NEVER be ashamed, you are all beautiful!!! <3
yesterday
I tried to post a pic and it didnt work, could somebody tell me how it works?? its seems very different then like facebook or something (and I’m new to tumblr) I clicked on insert an image but idk how to get a pictures URL or anything thnx
NB: Hello lovely, here’s a link to our FAQ where you can find out exactly how to submit :) Looking forward to seeing your submission soon!
http://gentlemenprefercurves.tumblr.com/FAQ
I'm 15, 5'7-5'10 and i'm about 220lbs. I want to lose weight but it's not working for me so, i'd like to know what are some ways of being comfortable with it. I really love this blog by the way, you all are beautiful! ♥
There are plenty of ways :D But if you truly do want to lose weight for whatever reason, stick with it :) You’ll get there. But if you want to love your body and be comfortable with how you look, start looking at parts of yourself that you love, focus on them and highlight them, and every day add to it, the first day you might think, “I love my lips” so wear a nice lipstick, the next day you might think “My legs look really great today and so do my lips!” So wear a nice skirt or something, every day add to the things you love about yourself, even if it’s small and even if you’re not feeling really great about yourself. Smile!
I wish you the bes of luck, dear :)
In regards to the bigger size-smaller bust thing- I tend to find the clothes that don't fit at the bust. I have a similar issue with pants, where everywhere but the crotch area fits nicely. Like, the legs will fit right, the top of it will be roomy but it's like the manufacturers think there's only one type of curve or that the crotch should hold up the pants :/
Finally got the guts...
to post a pic!! I’m 5’5 ish and around 140+ (Im not going to weigh myself anymore after worrying about my image so much) so here is me, curves and all! I wish I was a size 0 but I’m no where near that! but I’m trying and learning to be happy and confident with who I am!! :) any comments are appreciated!!
Hi! I would just like to suggest a topic you may wish to address in your blog. I consider you to be an influential person, so am approaching you with this. Can you also advocate the big curvy women who do not have as big a pair of boobs as Caucasians? Dress designers usually have this misconception that when you are a size 16, you have at least a cup B on your rack. But am a size 16 but my cup size is only cupA. I am of Asian descent hence my genetics prevent me from having big boobs.
I had a lady message me about this today, actually.
I agree with you, dresses (and I found, corsets) for bigger women are always bigger in the bust, I understand why they do this, because yes, a lot of bigger ladies have big breasts, but I’m getting drawn to the conclusion that us smaller-breasted curvy girls are a bit of a rare breed. I haven’t really had the problem with dresses, but I’m a size 18 and my shoulders are slightly broad. I am happy to advocate any curvy women on here, no matter their bust size. Maybe you could even submit a photo of yourself?
Thanks for your message!
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I haven’t been able to get on there and do much of late, but like us and have a chat with some of the other fans etc. It’ll be fun :D I will be getting in there and posting news relevent to the plus size community etc as well, so it will start looking more like a like page soon haha :)
- Jessi
Thanks for giving me hope. Every day I read this, I get closer to really accepting myself. It's so great to be reminded that there are plenty of people who aren't ignorant, shallow, or close-minded. I think I'll post a picture for the first time tomorrow. I can't ever express my thank yous enough.
I love these messages, thank you :) I really look forward to seeing your submission! I’m so glad that GPC is helping you to accept who you are :) Thank you.
I had lymphatic cancer a few years ago and as part of my treatment, I needed several invasive surgeries in the tissue in my chest. Not only has my skin healed poorly so my breasts sag but there's so much scar tissue that I'm now two very different cup sizes. I'm already overweight and feel terrible about how I look but I can't find a bra that fits or flatters me and it makes me feel worse. Other then surgery, do you have any advice to deal with this? I'm only 24 and I just want to love who I am
I’m so sorry to hear you had to go through that. That’s terrible. But congratulations on pulling through and being so strong. My only suggestion is to maybe invest in some chicken fillets (little pads you can slip under your breasts in your bra to push them up a little) Which you can get anywhere really, and I think they would be a cheaper and effective alternative to surgery and would help if you’re two different cup sizes. Also, BRA EXTENDERS! Are a life saver, if the cups fit but the bra is just too small, you can use it on the clasps and you’ve got it :D
I hope you found this helpful and keep your chin up, doll :)
I'm a shorter curvier gal (5'2" and 140lbs), but my problem is that while I have a rather large behind, I have small boobs. I really feel like this takes away from my curviness. Do any ladies out there have the same problem? I've had a hard time accepting my breasts.
I for one know what you’re talking about!! I have always been a little insecure of my breasts because I’m bigger. But the truth is that’s just how we’re made, some bigger ladies have bigger breasts, some, like us have smaller ones. And this is okay, I know it can be hard to accept them, but they are part of your body and part of what makes you who you are :) There is nothing wrong with having smaller breasts if you’re bigger and you can always buy bras and chicken fillets to give you a little extra boost if your want it. I hope this helps :D
well, i absolutely love this blog. do you have any style tips for bigger girls? my problem is mostly my stomach. i find that i either look like im wearing a tent or that things are way too tight. i get so upset when trying things on and i just cant find stuff that works for me, so i usually end up in jeans and a tshirt, but i wanna wear cute stuff!
Shapewear!! I have a tummy as well and whenever I’m wearing anything from jeans and a nice top to a cute dress, I always have on shapewear underneath. You can look it up online, but I actually got a great pair from Kmart for cheap. It’s totally worth it :D
Also, if you want to call attention away from your stomach area go for tops or dresses that don’t cling too much to the area, but try to get dresses or tops that are fitted around the bust.
There are tonnes of options now for bigger girls which is great, so take advantage of it! Kmart and Target have a great line of plus size clothing and there’s plenty on the internet :D
I hope I helped and good luck!!
To the anon talking about possibly not being able to have children - I completely understand. I have a hereditary birth defect that caused me to have an amputation of my right leg and can cause things from that to facial deformities and developmental disorders. My mom's side of the family doesn't think I should have any children that are biologically mine because the genetic issue can not be pinpointed. It's so hard, I know, and I wish you the best of luck. Love!
This is without a doubt one of the most positive and supportive blogs on all of tumblr. I have never come across another community where everyone is so honest, supportive and kind to each other, not to mention accepting. I think everyone, whether they've submitted a picture, responded to a post or told a story, anything - is amazing. And those who created this blog/maintain it: you deserve so much praise for creating an empowering and positive atmosphere on the Internet so full of hate. BRAVO.
Thank you so much :) This is such a wonderful message. I actually just wrote a post thanking everyone and praising them for their support of each other, I am so proud to be the owner of a blog that is so supportive and accepting :) Thank you so much for this beautiful message, it really means a lot :)
I guess the most upsetting part is I have yet to tell my fiance about the possibility I might not be able to have kids because he really wants to be a dad and he loves my body and my belly and constantly rubs it and tells me how much he'll love rubbing my back and my belly and my hips and my ankles when I'm growing bigger with his child. And it breaks my heart to know that my dream of being the biological mom and him being a biological father may never come to fruition. But adoption is possible.
There are always options, I do feel sad for you both if you are unable to conceive. It will be alright and you will find a way to be wonderful mum and him to be a great dad. He sounds like a wonderful, loving and caring man and I’m sure he’ll understand when you do tell him.
I just have to say;
I am so proud to be the owner of a blog where all of the followers are so, so supportive of each other. You are all such amazing and wonderful people and thank you for all of your kind words and support to one another. I truly have the best followers :)
- Jessi.
Your anons seem to have it rough tonight....
To the anon who might not be a mom,
Do not forget about surrogacy, if you are keen to have your own child and can possibly afford it…its an option.
To the anon recovering from bulimia,
I have a few choice words for your ex, but I have the courtesy to not say them here. How dare he judge you!! I am sure you are wonderful and beautiful. One day you will find someone you loves you very much for who YOU are, not who THEY want you to be! I hate to hear someone was judged based on their weight, its discrimination and it should not be acceptable in today’s society.
Anyway hugs to you both <3
To the Anon w/osteo: They're telling you that because childbirth would likely shatter you pelvis and you would never be able to walk again, if you made it to that point. The weight of your child would likely hurt you before that.
To your anon who wants to be a mom: You shouldn't do anything that would put your own health at risk! Especially if post-pregnancy you would be worse off. However, you'd clearly be an amazing mom. Try adoption, foster care, or SURROGACY!!! keep yourself and your baby safe and healthy :)
to the anon: my younger sister is 23 and last summer had to have her ovaries and fallopian tubes removed because she had ovarian cancer. she'll never be able to have biological children. I know the thought of never being able to be pregnant is horrifying, but it does not in any way keep you from being a mother. You are not alone.
To the anon with the jackass ex- ignore his bullshit. After I broke up with my boyfriend of over a year, he went around telling people how he was lighter than me. It sucks, and it hurts, but try your best to surround yourself with people who know you're beautiful. Don't let some guy make you feel ugly, or lower your self-worth.
Exactly right!
To the young lady who feels like less of a woman because she may not be able to conceive: You are not any less of a woman. At all. Period. All that matters is how you feel, really. There are many women in your same situation, it makes them no less of a woman in any form or fashion. As for being a mom, there are several routes you can go (adoption, surrogate mother, foster parent, etc), please don't let it get you down. There are many, many options for you. Good luck with everything, sweetheart!
Such lovely, encouraging messages from you girls today, thank you :D I hope the lovely lady is reading these!!
To the Anon who might never be able to have kids. I understand your pain BUT don't forget about adoption, or being a foster mom.
My ex boyfriend broke up with me, a few days ago. One of the reasons is because of my weight. He's not attracted to my size.He said I'm pretty, with uglyiness around me. He meant my body. I'm recovering from an eating disorder, he made me feel so worthless. I just don't understand how he could be so insensitive. I mean, I'm recovering from fucking bulimia. God.
Wow… I’m sorry, doll but you’re totally better off without him!! “Ugliness around you” Jeez, that is cruel. You may be chubby but at least you’re not a horrible person like him. Don’t feel worthless, I bet you’re beautiful and I encourage you to submit a picture of yourself. There are tonnes of men out there who would love your size, who cares if he’s not attracted to it? If he can say those mean things to you, he doesn’t deserve you at all. You are better than that. Please feel better and don’t let him get you down.
I'm that last anon with osteoporosis. And I have 2 spinal fractures that will never heal and a hip that is faulty in some unknown way. I've been advised against ever getting pregnant. In fact, one doctor was so bold as to tell me a hysterectomy would be my best shot. And my own mother told me to stop thinking about ever being a mom. But I've wanted to be a mom ever since I was really little. And I think I'm going to get pregnant in secret after I get married and not tell anyone but the father...
Hmm, that sounds really tough, and that’s so sad that your mum said that too. I just don’t think it would be wise to just forget about being a mum all together, but you do need to take your health into account, if you do fall pregnant after you get married, perhaps you should seek out a doctor to help you through it, give you advice and such because being a mum is something that you seem very passionate about and it and you should be given a chance to be the mother you’ve always wanted to be.
not anon so it is less creepy .. congrats on your new found confidence .. from my eyes it seems like this should have happened earlier ... you look great
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Some fanmail for you, lovely :)
Last year, at the age of 17, I was diagnosed with osteoporosis. This year, I'm being told I may have arthritis, bursitis, or osteoarthritis because I've been having some pretty sever hip pain that is not hip fractures. I'm chubby and I'm 5'6" and 198 pounds. I'm 40-36-42.5 and I've been told none of this is related to my weight. But I've been told that I may never be able to have children because of the problems I've been having. I feel like less of a woman because I may not be able to be a mom.
I’m sorry to hear about your diagnosis, that sure is terrible.
Aside from the hip pain you mentioned, how do you feel otherwise? Women’s bodies are fascinating and unpredictable, so I wouldn’t write off being a mum just yet, you never know what the future may hold for you. And if in the unfortunate event that you may not be able to conceive, there are other options. Although I hope that you’ll be able to have a baby because you sound like you’d really love to be a mother.
Maybe you could ask your doctor if there is anything you can do when you want to start a family.
I really hope that I have been able to help in some way, I’m not very experienced in this area, but I wish you all the best on your journey, I hope everything works out for you. You seem like a strong and caring woman. Thank you for your message.
I recently realized I can be sexy and I can be beautiful. Which is rare for me.
I tried submitting a post eariler, idk if it went through or not cause im new to tumblr. I actually got a tumblr account casue I came across this blog and was shocked at all the love and support here and after reading EVERY single post and almost coming to tears, i knew I needed to join this family of strong women! cause I struggle, we all struggle everyday, no matter how big we are or how old we are, we all need love!!
NB. I just published your last post :) Thank you for your lovely messages and I hope you enjoy GPC! I sure look forward to a photo submission by you too :D
Hey!!
I got a tumblr account just cause I found this page, and wow. I was almost brought to tears reading EVERY SINGLE post and realizing that I’m not even close to being alone, and I totally need encouragement and motivation and I’m excited about becoming a part of this page!! xoxoxo
